I found the problem after many hours of stareing like a idiot ,I stoped and thought well what if a older install of it had left dorment files that when a new install had been detected wern't so dormen ...
I installed MySQL 5.0 its up and running but for some reason on command prompt and in nwn it keeps acting like i dont have privelage for my user/ pass i've even tryed granting privelage to another nam ...